IONI — Institute of NLP India

Values Elicitation

Ask people their values and you get a poster; elicit them and you get the hierarchy actually running their decisions. The procedure is simple; the discipline is in not scripting it.

The elicitation

  • Ask: "What is important to you about [context]?" — record their exact words
  • Repeat until exhausted (usually 5–8 criteria)
  • Force ranking: "if you could have X only by giving up Y, which?" — pairwise comparisons build the hierarchy
  • Listen for toward vs away values (achieve vs avoid) — motivation direction hides here

What the hierarchy explains

Why "more money" fails to move someone whose top value is belonging; why a promotion stalls when it violates a security value; why your own goals drift — they serve a values hierarchy you never wrote down. In sales: the buyer's stated criteria versus ranked criteria explains most "irrational" decisions. In coaching: the real work begins where stated values and revealed values diverge.

Discipline notes

Values are contextual — work-values ≠ relationship-values; elicit per context. And elicitation is listening, not interrogation: pace, don't push. The perceptual-positions drill pairs well when the hierarchy conflicts with itself.

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Frequently asked questions

What are NLP values?

Context-specific criteria (words like security, growth, recognition, freedom) ranked in a hierarchy that steers decisions — elicited behaviourally, not assumed from posters.

How is this different from just asking what someone wants?

Wants are single answers; elicitation maps the ranked criteria behind all of them — including conflicts between stated and revealed values.

Written by ShriViral Manek, Institute of NLP India · reviewed 30 Sept 2026 · see it live, free →