The patterns that respond: perceptual-position work on the recurring argument (actually inhabiting the other chair), de-escalation via one partner's state control (it halves the system temperature), and intention-first listening under the criticism. What doesn't respond: trust reconstruction after betrayal, abuse of any kind, addiction — those need qualified couples or individual therapy.
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For the communication layer of partnership — the escalation cycles, the deleted premises, the misread intentions — often meaningfully. For the serious layers — betrayal, abuse, clinical distress — couples therapy, not NLP.
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ShriViral Manek, Institute of NLP India · reviewed 30 Sept 2026